I just got done reading though the adoption papers that the birth dad filled out. I’m so thankful to have the medical history and some information about him and his family that we wouldn’t have otherwise had if he hadn’t filled it out. Our lawyer and counselor even said he was in the top 5 of birth dads they had met with. He was kind, a good communicator, respectful, and had a great smile. (They also said he’s huge. He’s 6′ 5″ and 290 lbs. which is why my child eats like he does.) I don’t know if he’s like this all the time but at least I can tell Isaac one day that others had good things to say about him.
But here’s the kicker for me, the heart wrenching, make me want to do the ugly cry kicker. He checked the “No” box. He said he did not want to meet Isaac in the future if Isaac wanted to. He didn’t check the box that said I’m not sure at this time. He checked “NO”. And maybe Isaac won’t care when he’s older if he meets him or not but I so hoped that would have been an option for him. Ugh. My heart literally aches at the thought of the rejection Isaac may feel as a result of that “no” box. I’m pretty sure that the birth dad has no idea of the gift he gave up, or maybe he does. But regardless I pray for him often. I pray that God would draw him in and change his life and heart. I pray one day he may be open to meeting Isaac. I also pray that God will fill Isaac’s heart and mind with Truth in such a way that he will know that he is loved and will never be rejected by his Father in Heaven or us.
In light of November being National Adoption Awareness month will you pray about adopting a child? Will you be the “Yes” Box for a child that someone has said “No” too?